Honest, challenging and intelligentconversations to loosen old patternsand let life back in.

We can find ourselves feeling lost, purposeless, paralysed, unfulfilled, angry or trapped. We can feel like our identity is fragmenting or dissolving. It can feel like we are breaking, or broken, that something has gone wrong.

That is partly what makes our situation so hard to explain to anyone else.

The struggle is interior and specific. We sense that ‘the answer’ lies somewhere in us, waiting, always just out of reach. We have searched for it, tried to unlock it, done all the work, yet life still feels smaller and harder than it should.

We have probably stopped trying to explain this to most people. It sounds ungrateful from the outside. Our life is good, we seem to understand ourselves, so what exactly is the problem?

We have largely accepted that this is a private struggle. That maybe it is ‘just me’. That no matter how much we try and get out of our own way, we can’t. That maybe bottled up suffering will be part of life from here on in.

But these feelings are often far more organised than they first appear, and far less personal.

Beneath even our most seemingly self-defeating behaviours is usually an intelligent, pattern based attempt to protect or defend something important.

The problem is not the pattern itself. At some point it probably served you in a useful way.

So yes it keeps repeating the past. And over time it can also lock up the qualities, desires and possibilities that belong to who you are now.

But while the pattern is still running off the old story, change can be imagined, desired and even worked hard for but in practice still feel impossible.

This is not theoretical for me. I have lived this myself and I know the suffering and sense of isolation that it can inflict.

I learned the hard way that these patterns can outgrow their usefulness gradually, or, in response to tragedy or loss, all at once. I was not ready for that.

When what keeps us feeling stable and safe comes undone, we are thrown back on our own internal resources to fill the gap. I can look back now on the unravelling of the beautiful life that I had worked so hard to build and see that, with the knowledge I have now, things could have been so different.

It took me seven years to come through this time and be able to see it clearly.

I tried everything and looked everywhere for help but was astonished, and remain astonished, at not only the lack of language available to us to describe these states, but also the lack of meaningful frameworks for understanding them.

What I wanted, more than anything, was a conversation in which I could feel safe, unhurried and unjudged. A conversation with someone who understood immediately, without me having to earn credibility or shoehorn myself into clinical or therapeutic language. I wanted to be seen by someone whose way of seeing added something I did not already have.

This work takes the form of intelligent, challenging and honest conversations. They allow for free-flowing conversation but are lightly structured to ensure every session builds on the last. Each conversation lasts for ninety minutes so that you do not have to edit yourself or feel under pressure from a time limit.

We work with a framework that draws from Jungian thinking, lived experience and the observational skills developed over fifteen years as a qualitative researcher. Central to the framework is a map that helps bring our patterns more clearly into view and provides a direction of travel. We also have a method for identifying which inner capacities need strengthening, and practical ways to build them.

This work takes all the most useful strategies and tools that I have found over the last seven years, together with the framework I have developed and tested, and folds them into this intensive twelve-week program.

• Twelve weeks
• 12 × 90-minute private conversations
• Weekly sessions
• Preparation, review and integration pre and post session so that each conversation builds on the last
• Between-session reflection and practice
• Email support

AUD $3960 inc GST or four instalments of AUD $990

Because this is intensive, one-on-one work, I only work with a small number of women at a time.

If you feel this work might help you, make a time to talk via the link below and we can explore what is happening for you. Let's see if, together, we can shift something.